Over the next few weeks I’ll be giving you the heads up on some of the biggest online dating mistakes many people make so you can avoid falling into the same online dating potholes and make this way of finding a partner work for you!

In part two, I’m going to talk about the importance of dating online with the right mindset and how any negative beliefs you have about the opposite sex can ruin your chances when dating online.

So let me start by asking you:

-          Have you ever been on a first date which you thought went really well but then they didn’t call back?

-          Have you ever dated someone you thought loved you but then they didn’t want to commit?

-          Have you ever been cheated on by someone you trusted and you don’t know how to start over and trust a partner again?

If any of these are true for you, it just means you’re human!

One of the most important (and often overlooked) factors to successful online dating is to let go of any negative or limiting beliefs you have about yourself or the opposite sex and start with a fresh, positive mindset.

Start by learning to recognise how your past experiences are affecting your view of yourself, the opposite sex and dating. For example, if your partner cheated on you in a past relationship, you may be saying ‘men/women are such liars and cheats’ rather than ‘my boyfriend/girlfriend was a liar and a cheat.’

Don’t make false assumptions and tar everyone with the same brush – your negativity will show.

If you genuinely believe that dating is hard work or that women are liars or men just want casual sex, then all your new relationships will fail as you’ll be looking for evidence in everyone you meet. It will be leaking out from you, even if you’re completely unaware of it yourself.

Negativity in any form is unattractive, so take a look at what beliefs you hold and how they may be coming out in what you say and do when you’re dating online.

Thanks for tuning in to part 2, I hope you’ve found this online dating advice useful. If you’d like to work with me personally, click here for more info:

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