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Over the next few weeks I want to give you the heads up on some of the biggest online dating mistakes many people make so you can avoid falling into the same potholes along the path of finding the right partner for you.

In this weeks post I’m going to cut straight to the chase with the No.1 online dating mistake I believe people make when they start dating online an that’s:

Not making this a priority in your life

If we’re looking for a new job we think nothing of spending hours writing up our CV, searching through job websites and applying for positions, but when it comes to finding love, our one true source of happiness, we make the mistake of thinking that this amazing man will come into our lives without the need to put in the time or effort it will take to find him.

You may spend at least 35 hours a week working, a few hours watching TV, going to the gym, reading or surfing the internet, but how much time do you actually spend on creating the right opportunities to find love? If you’re not meeting new single people often enough then the likelihood of you finding a partner is slim.

So, how much is finding this man really worth to you?

How much time, effort and money are you prepared to invest each week to get what you want?

Everything in life worth having requires an investment, and your love life is no different so I’d encourage you to be proactive. Start contacting the men you’re interested in online and don’t sit back and wait for them to find you!

Do you find it hard to know what to write in that first email to someone you like the look of?

Are you wondering if you should wink, add him to your ‘favourites’ or whether to send him an email?

Well, here are a few of my top tips on how to make online dating work for you:

1. The first and most important rule to emailing online is to be proactive. Once you’ve written a great profile (I can help with that by the way) and uploaded a selection of your best photos, are you then going to sit back and wait for the men to contact you? No, absolutely not. This will only leave you feeling frustrated and disappointed and your love life is too important to leave to chance. There’s no rule that says the man should be the one to contact you first, so go ahead and actively search out the men you like the look of and send them an email… after all what have you got to lose?
2. Use your subscription like a gym membership – If you want to lose weight or tone up, you know you need to go to the gym regularly and workout for 3 days a week for at least 3 – 6 months. The same is true with online dating. You’re going to need to log in at least 4 times a week and search and email members for at least an hour every time. Don’t fall into the trap of paying your subscription and then not using it and expecting things to change. Aim to send a personal email (not a wink or anything that’s cut and pasted) to around 5 people each week and meet at least 1 person every week until you find someone you’d like to date… and who’d like to date you.
3. Find something that’s unique to him in his profile and write to him about it, always adding a question at the end. This will let him know you’ve read his profile and by asking a question at the end you make it easy for him to respond to you. Something simple like this is fine:

‘Wow, I see you’ve spent 5 years in Italy… it’s such a beautiful country and I’ve had some great holidays there.

If you could choose the one thing you          love most about it, what would it be?

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Struggling to meet the right partner for you?

Want to know where to find someone special to share your life with?

well you’re not alone, but if you’re not dating online you’re missing out on meeting other great, like minded singles looking for love just like you.

So, don’t waste another day  and have them pass you by. Online dating works for thousands of people every days, but it’s a skill. Work with me and I’ll show you  step by step, how to avoid the 7 biggest mistakes people make online so you can go from single to happily dating and sharing your life with someone special in no time at all

Get the insider tips and secrets you need in this 3 week program and discover how to…

• Create a profile that will get you noticed
• Know what qualities really are important in your ideal partner
• Save time and money by knowing which website(s) to choose
• Avoid the 7 biggest mistakes people make with online dating
• Spot your ideal partner in a sea of profiles
• Write emails that get a response
• Go from email to a first date  plus…

much, much, much more!

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Now that 2010 and the new decade has officially started, are you still committed to your New Year resolutions?

Well, if like many of us, you fall at the first hurdle with the usual “I want to…. drop a dress size, exercise more, eat healthily or find my ideal partner,” I want to encourage you to take a different look at this year’s resolutions. I want you to turn up the gas and make this the year you commit to loving yourself, just as you are.

Now, this may sound a little ‘tree hugging’ to some of you, but I truly believe that in order to find true love, you have to love yourself first. This is the critical step that so many of us miss out when looking for our soul mate. Somehow we feel that when we find this person, that everything in our lives will come good and they’ll love us exactly as we are…. And this can be true, but only when you truly love yourself exactly as you are first.

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