Over the next few weeks I want to give you the heads up on some of the biggest online dating mistakes many people make so you can avoid falling into the same potholes along the path of finding the right partner for you.

In this weeks post I’m going to cut straight to the chase with the No.1 online dating mistake I believe people make when they start dating online an that’s:

Not making this a priority in your life

If we’re looking for a new job we think nothing of spending hours writing up our CV, searching through job websites and applying for positions, but when it comes to finding love, our one true source of happiness, we make the mistake of thinking that this amazing man will come into our lives without the need to put in the time or effort it will take to find him.

You may spend at least 35 hours a week working, a few hours watching TV, going to the gym, reading or surfing the internet, but how much time do you actually spend on creating the right opportunities to find love? If you’re not meeting new single people often enough then the likelihood of you finding a partner is slim.

So, how much is finding this man really worth to you?

How much time, effort and money are you prepared to invest each week to get what you want?

Everything in life worth having requires an investment, and your love life is no different so I’d encourage you to be proactive. Start contacting the men you’re interested in online and don’t sit back and wait for them to find you!

With the Christmas party season about to come into full swing, it’s a great time to get those party frocks out, glam up and get out there and have some fun!

Flirting is all about being relaxed, having fun and getting to know someone. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to put an attachment on whether this guy you like the look of will fancy you too.

So this party season, put any of your worries about being single behind you and simply go out, have a good time, get to know some new people and you may be surprised at what happens!

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Get ready to learn why most men don’t call a woman even after they’ve said they will…

 Have you ever been out with your friends and met a great guy. You got on so well and he asked for your number but then never called?

 Or perhaps you’ve had a few dates already and all seems to be going along well, you’ve had a great night out and he says he’ll call you tomorrow and then nothing for days! You’re left hanging, frustrated and confused.

 What’s going on when this happens?

 OK, lets get to it shall we but before we do remember some of this won’t make sense. Yep, just like as women we don’t often make sense, the same is true for guys!

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Are you feeling confused about why you can’t get a guy to approach you?

Do you feel you’re a good catch but men just don’t seem to notice you?

No problem… read on for my 7 secrets of a flirting goddess…

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Flirting Tip No. 1 Be direct

Men can so easily misinterpret the signs from women so be sure when you flirt that your signals are clear and that he’ll know you’re interested in him.

I’d never advocate flirting with someone sexually from the very beginning if you’re looking for something more serious, but flirting for fun is fine when you genuinely want to meet people and strike up a conversation.  .

Flirting Tip No. 2 Smile, smile and smile some more!

People love being around happy, positive people their mood and feelings are contagious. Get yourself into the right frame of mind for flirting and go and have fun because if you feel good about yourself then others will feel good being around you.

Flirting Tip No. 3 Be different

If you want to get noticed and have a guy approach you try wearing something unusual or carrying something that will be easy for a guy to comment on. Remember, guys are afraid of rejection too so make it easy for him to come up and talk to you.

Flirting Tip No. 4 Don’t hang around your girlfriends

Guys find it tough to approach someone they like if they’re in a group with their friends so if you see a guy who’s interested in you try and separate for a while from your friends so that he feels more comfortable approaching you.

Flirting Tip No. 5 Reject a man politely

Men can appear like idiots when they approach women sometimes but telling them to ‘get lost’ or something similar is neither feminine nor polite. Men are really no different to women when it comes to having the nerve to approach someone they’re interested in. I always say treat someone as you’d want to be treated yourself so let him down gently!

Flirting Tip No. 6 Let him talk

Ask him about himself and what he enjoys doing to really find out all about him – remember, people love to talk about themselves and feel good when someone shows an interest in them. This also gives you more information about him and if he’d be someone you’d want to give your telephone number to.

Flirting Tip No. 7 If you give out your number, give a real  one

Imagine what it must feel like plucking up the courage to dial a woman’s number only to find you’ve been given the number of the local laundrette. If you don’t feel comfortable to give him your number then simply decline politely so he knows where he stands.

Flirting Tip No. 8 Go on…make the first move!

Studies have found that most men would love to be approached by a woman. So why leave your love life to chance, and at the end of the day what have you got to lose by smiling and making a fun, flirty and casual approach to a man you’re interested in?

And finally:

Flirting Tip No. 9  Don’t try too hard.

There’s no point in trying to be someone you’re not so just relax, have fun with flirting and be proud of who you are and the rest will happen naturally.

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