Online Dating – 5 top tips for what to write in your first email

Do you find it hard to know what to write in that first email to someone you like the look of?

Are you wondering if you should wink, add him to your ‘favourites’ or whether to send him an email?

Well, here are a few of my top tips on how to make online dating work for you:

1. The first and most important rule to emailing online is to be proactive. Once you’ve written a great profile (I can help with that by the way) and uploaded a selection of your best photos, are you then going to sit back and wait for the men to contact you? No, absolutely not. This will only leave you feeling frustrated and disappointed and your love life is too important to leave to chance. There’s no rule that says the man should be the one to contact you first, so go ahead and actively search out the men you like the look of and send them an email… after all what have you got to lose?
2. Use your subscription like a gym membership – If you want to lose weight or tone up, you know you need to go to the gym regularly and workout for 3 days a week for at least 3 – 6 months. The same is true with online dating. You’re going to need to log in at least 4 times a week and search and email members for at least an hour every time. Don’t fall into the trap of paying your subscription and then not using it and expecting things to change. Aim to send a personal email (not a wink or anything that’s cut and pasted) to around 5 people each week and meet at least 1 person every week until you find someone you’d like to date… and who’d like to date you.
3. Find something that’s unique to him in his profile and write to him about it, always adding a question at the end. This will let him know you’ve read his profile and by asking a question at the end you make it easy for him to respond to you. Something simple like this is fine:

‘Wow, I see you’ve spent 5 years in Italy… it’s such a beautiful country and I’ve had some great holidays there.

If you could choose the one thing you          love most about it, what would it be?

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