Over the next few weeks I’ll be giving you the heads up on some of the biggest online dating mistakes many people make so you can avoid falling into the same online dating potholes and make this way of finding a partner work for you!

In part two, I’m going to talk about the importance of dating online with the right mindset and how any negative beliefs you have about the opposite sex can ruin your chances when dating online.

So let me start by asking you:

-          Have you ever been on a first date which you thought went really well but then they didn’t call back?

-          Have you ever dated someone you thought loved you but then they didn’t want to commit?

-          Have you ever been cheated on by someone you trusted and you don’t know how to start over and trust a partner again?

If any of these are true for you, it just means you’re human!

One of the most important (and often overlooked) factors to successful online dating is to let go of any negative or limiting beliefs you have about yourself or the opposite sex and start with a fresh, positive mindset.

Start by learning to recognise how your past experiences are affecting your view of yourself, the opposite sex and dating. For example, if your partner cheated on you in a past relationship, you may be saying ‘men/women are such liars and cheats’ rather than ‘my boyfriend/girlfriend was a liar and a cheat.’

Don’t make false assumptions and tar everyone with the same brush – your negativity will show.

If you genuinely believe that dating is hard work or that women are liars or men just want casual sex, then all your new relationships will fail as you’ll be looking for evidence in everyone you meet. It will be leaking out from you, even if you’re completely unaware of it yourself.

Negativity in any form is unattractive, so take a look at what beliefs you hold and how they may be coming out in what you say and do when you’re dating online.

Thanks for tuning in to part 2, I hope you’ve found this online dating advice useful. If you’d like to work with me personally, click here for more info:

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Over the next few weeks I want to give you the heads up on some of the biggest online dating mistakes many people make so you can avoid falling into the same potholes along the path of finding the right partner for you.

In this weeks post I’m going to cut straight to the chase with the No.1 online dating mistake I believe people make when they start dating online an that’s:

Not making this a priority in your life

If we’re looking for a new job we think nothing of spending hours writing up our CV, searching through job websites and applying for positions, but when it comes to finding love, our one true source of happiness, we make the mistake of thinking that this amazing man will come into our lives without the need to put in the time or effort it will take to find him.

You may spend at least 35 hours a week working, a few hours watching TV, going to the gym, reading or surfing the internet, but how much time do you actually spend on creating the right opportunities to find love? If you’re not meeting new single people often enough then the likelihood of you finding a partner is slim.

So, how much is finding this man really worth to you?

How much time, effort and money are you prepared to invest each week to get what you want?

Everything in life worth having requires an investment, and your love life is no different so I’d encourage you to be proactive. Start contacting the men you’re interested in online and don’t sit back and wait for them to find you!

With the Christmas party season about to come into full swing, it’s a great time to get those party frocks out, glam up and get out there and have some fun!

Flirting is all about being relaxed, having fun and getting to know someone. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to put an attachment on whether this guy you like the look of will fancy you too.

So this party season, put any of your worries about being single behind you and simply go out, have a good time, get to know some new people and you may be surprised at what happens!

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Christmas is just around the corner and if you’re starting to feel the loneliness of being single getting to you then I’ve got a few tips to help you through.

I remember one year spending Christmas on my own wrapped up under a blanket on the sofa with just the TV and chocolate for company. I even cooked myself a Christmas dinner which lasted for 5 days (have you ever tried to cook Christmas dinner for one?!)….

Well, that one was enough for me and from there I vowed never to do that again.

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Get ready to learn why most men don’t call a woman even after they’ve said they will…

 Have you ever been out with your friends and met a great guy. You got on so well and he asked for your number but then never called?

 Or perhaps you’ve had a few dates already and all seems to be going along well, you’ve had a great night out and he says he’ll call you tomorrow and then nothing for days! You’re left hanging, frustrated and confused.

 What’s going on when this happens?

 OK, lets get to it shall we but before we do remember some of this won’t make sense. Yep, just like as women we don’t often make sense, the same is true for guys!

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