Declaring you want the perfect man right from the start in your profile!

Have you ever seen (or maybe even written) things like: ‘I’m looking for Mr Right, My Prince Charming or My Soul Mate’ in a profile? Make no mistake, these phrases are a huge turn off for a man because they set the bar so high and far into the future that he’s not ready to imagine himself there just yet.

It’s natural as women to want to know early on (if not straight away) that the guy you might meet is looking for a serious relationship and more than just something casual, but remember; men need to take their time to get to know you.

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Over the next few weeks I’ll be giving you the heads up on some of the biggest online dating mistakes many people make so you can avoid falling into the same online dating potholes and make this way of finding a partner work for you!

In part two, I’m going to talk about the importance of dating online with the right mindset and how any negative beliefs you have about the opposite sex can ruin your chances when dating online.

So let me start by asking you:

-          Have you ever been on a first date which you thought went really well but then they didn’t call back?

-          Have you ever dated someone you thought loved you but then they didn’t want to commit?

-          Have you ever been cheated on by someone you trusted and you don’t know how to start over and trust a partner again?

If any of these are true for you, it just means you’re human!

One of the most important (and often overlooked) factors to successful online dating is to let go of any negative or limiting beliefs you have about yourself or the opposite sex and start with a fresh, positive mindset.

Start by learning to recognise how your past experiences are affecting your view of yourself, the opposite sex and dating. For example, if your partner cheated on you in a past relationship, you may be saying ‘men/women are such liars and cheats’ rather than ‘my boyfriend/girlfriend was a liar and a cheat.’

Don’t make false assumptions and tar everyone with the same brush – your negativity will show.

If you genuinely believe that dating is hard work or that women are liars or men just want casual sex, then all your new relationships will fail as you’ll be looking for evidence in everyone you meet. It will be leaking out from you, even if you’re completely unaware of it yourself.

Negativity in any form is unattractive, so take a look at what beliefs you hold and how they may be coming out in what you say and do when you’re dating online.

Thanks for tuning in to part 2, I hope you’ve found this online dating advice useful. If you’d like to work with me personally, click here for more info:

http://www.havefunfindingtheone.co.uk/lookingforlove.php

Over the next few weeks I want to give you the heads up on some of the biggest online dating mistakes many people make so you can avoid falling into the same potholes along the path of finding the right partner for you.

In this weeks post I’m going to cut straight to the chase with the No.1 online dating mistake I believe people make when they start dating online an that’s:

Not making this a priority in your life

If we’re looking for a new job we think nothing of spending hours writing up our CV, searching through job websites and applying for positions, but when it comes to finding love, our one true source of happiness, we make the mistake of thinking that this amazing man will come into our lives without the need to put in the time or effort it will take to find him.

You may spend at least 35 hours a week working, a few hours watching TV, going to the gym, reading or surfing the internet, but how much time do you actually spend on creating the right opportunities to find love? If you’re not meeting new single people often enough then the likelihood of you finding a partner is slim.

So, how much is finding this man really worth to you?

How much time, effort and money are you prepared to invest each week to get what you want?

Everything in life worth having requires an investment, and your love life is no different so I’d encourage you to be proactive. Start contacting the men you’re interested in online and don’t sit back and wait for them to find you!

Now that 2010 and the new decade has officially started, are you still committed to your New Year resolutions?

Well, if like many of us, you fall at the first hurdle with the usual “I want to…. drop a dress size, exercise more, eat healthily or find my ideal partner,” I want to encourage you to take a different look at this year’s resolutions. I want you to turn up the gas and make this the year you commit to loving yourself, just as you are.

Now, this may sound a little ‘tree hugging’ to some of you, but I truly believe that in order to find true love, you have to love yourself first. This is the critical step that so many of us miss out when looking for our soul mate. Somehow we feel that when we find this person, that everything in our lives will come good and they’ll love us exactly as we are…. And this can be true, but only when you truly love yourself exactly as you are first.

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Have you been single for a while?

Not looking forward to another Christmas on your own?

Well, you’re not alone and to help you find someone special this Christmas here are my 5 top tips to attract your ideal partner and fall in love for good!

Tip #1: Commit the time to find love

Most of us spend at least 35 hours a week working, a few hours watching television, going to the gym, reading or surfing the internet. But how much time do you actually spend on creating the right opportunities to find love?

If you’re like most people, it’s likely that it’s not very much.

Everything in life worth having requires an investment, and your love life is no different. It’s time to put aside the thoughts that love should ‘just happen’ and there’s never a better time to do that than December. Say ‘yes’ to all the party invitations that come your way because unless you’re out there meeting people then finding your ideal partner is just not going to happen and you’ll end up disheartened and feeling like it’s just all too much like hard work.

Sound familiar?

…. so go on, get out there and make it happen for you.

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