I am a true advocate of online dating. It is without a doubt one of the best ways to meet a man. Yes it has its flaws but online dating works for thousands of people every day.

Here are just a few of the benefits I believe it offers:

• It creates the opportunity to meet people where before there was none

• It allows you to filter people out at different stages through emails and phone calls so you only spend time meeting the good guys

• It’s far cheaper than going out to a bar, speed dating or joining a matchmaking service

• It’s full of people just like you, looking for love and it can make be fun…after all, having a drink with a guy is far better than sitting at home watching telly.

After years of dating online myself I started to become disillusioned and to be honest it all felt like a lot of hard work. Looking through those pages of 2 dimensional photo’s and write up’s felt a bit clinical and kind on weird if I’m being honest. I just wanted to be loved but why was it so hard to find a good guy that I’d really click with?

The thing was when it came to dating online I didn’t know:

• How to write a good profile that would show the ‘real’ me. What was I going to write to make me sound fun and fabulous when all I do is work, watch telly, shop and go out with my friends?

• What photo’s should I put up?

• Whether to wink at men or not – should I let him to be the one to approach me as I don’t want to look too keen?

• If I was interested in a guy, what should I say or do to get his interest?

Well, there can be many fears we have about online dating so I thought I’d include all the things that I’ve done wrong so you can avoid them!

• I’ve opened the laptop on a Sunday afternoon bored and lonely and hoping to meet a man by 7pm!

• I’ve had guys I was emailing and starting something with vanish into thin air

• I’ve believed the find love in 6 months guaranteed promises

• I’ve had abusive emails when I either ignored someone’s email or politely wrote back to say I didn’t feel we were a match

• I’ve met guys that looked nothing like their photos and I mean nothing!

It occurred to me that there was very little available to help me through the whole process of online dating and yes, there were some self help books that dealt merely with the surface aspects of online dating but I wanted to go a step further, so I created a program that takes you step by step through the whole online dating process and how to find the man that’s right for you. 

Fact: When you date online you have the most potential to actually meet up with a man, go on a date and find a partner for life. In general, online dating sites are paid membership sites so the people on them are really looking to meet up, go on dates and find love. I know it seems obvious but it really is worth pointing out the fact that the men you will meet in this way have taken some time and most likely financial effort to find a woman.

Online dating can be a wonderful way of getting to know a man before a date and not wasting any time. The fact is it’s hard to find love. Most of us have a small circle of married friends or work colleagues and are simply not meeting enough new people on a regular basis to find love. So embrace online dating for what it is, keep positive and have fun. It’s an experience you’ll be likely to get a lot out of… including a great guy! If you want to learn more about my ‘How To Have Fun And Find The One With Online Dating’ program click on the link right here.

Wow, if we could only just wave that magic wand and have the next great guy we meet or the ex that got away fall in love with us how great would that be.

Well if any of you have been single a while or you’re still wishing an ex would come back into your life and tell you how silly he was to let you go then read on.

One of the greatest leaps I made in my life when it came to dating was realising that I needed to let go of the outcome. For so long I had felt that when I met a guy everything would fall into place and we’d be in this instant relationship where he’d fall in love with me and me with him and that would be it, job done.

BUT… once I learned that every relationship I enter into will be a journey with it’s ups and downs and at no point during that journey together, would I ever be able to say with 100% security it will always be that could I let go of the need to know what the outcome is, because I can never know so why keep trying?

It isn’t always easy to remember this and it can be even harder to act upon it and however frustrating it sounds, being happy with yourself first is really the best way to let go of the outcome. You see, when you are happy with yourself it is easier to just have a good time getting to know this guy and date him because if things don’t work out, you still have your own life.

A guy will only fall in love with you if he has enough consistent great experiences with you that work for him. No amount of analysing, trying too hard or TALKING with him will make hi ‘feel it’ for you. So, if you find yourself starting to stare at the future looking for answers just remind yourself to have fun and to live in the moment.

That’s all. Just have fun and enjoy every day and date you have together.

Next time he does something great and you want to tell him how much you are falling for him: just have fun.

Next time you are worried that he might not be that into you: just have fun.

Keep reminding yourself before, after and during every date to just have a good time and enjoy the journey. The early stages of dating are some of the best months so don’t cheat yourself or him out of them. Also, keep in mind that the journey never really ends. Whether you end up with him or not, you will constantly be on a mission to discover what works for each other. You may never know everything about him or him about you. It truly takes a lifetime to even get close as we are all so complex and unique. So don’t try to control it, don’t expect anything in particular and take pleasure in the fact that this world is full of surprises.

So if you ant to make the next man you meet fall in love with you, commit to doing some of the things below that will make it easier to let go of the need to know if he will fall in love with you or if he does actually love you!

• Make sure you enjoy your life
• Be confident in who you are and feel that you are worth the chase.
• Don’t look at him through rose tinted specs. Take your time to see him for who he is.
• Stay away from having sex early on with a man you are dating so that you don’t get attached early on.
• Don’t over analyse what he’s doing or thinking, you’ll probably never know anyway

If you remember to commit to the above, you will have a much easier time not needing to know where your relationship is going. And this really isn’t the kind of thing you can fake. Men can see a needy woman a mile away so make sure you start with yourself before you wonder what he is doing, thinking or feeling for you.