3 THINGS WOMEN DO THAT TURN A MAN OFF!
The thing is, until you and your man have been dating long enough to be in a ‘serious relationship’ things can be a little delicate.
It’s usually those first 6 months when you’re probably not exactly sure what’s going on in his head.
You may find one minute you’re so excited and optimistic that this guy could be the one for you, then the next minute you’re
worrying about whether this guy will break your heart and you’re just not sure you can go through that pain again.
These first few months are both exciting and terrifying at the same time.
So to get through this tricky time when even the smallest remark could send him running for the hills I’ve outlined my top 3 things women do that turn a man off.
So if you’re ready to delve into the dating pumpkin today lets get started…
THE TOP 3 THINGS WOMEN DO TO “TURN A MAN OFF” … and how to avoid them!
1. INSECURITY
Or as a guy would put it… ‘acting needy.’
This is the No.1 killer of relationships in the early stages so lets get to the bottom of it once and for all.
You must become aware of where and when you’re seeking out:
- To know what he’s thinking or feeling about you
- His approval for how you look, feel or behave
- His affection
- Having him ‘fix’ your life
Of course we all have times in our life when we feel lonely and we all at our core want to feel loved and secure…
BUT…
You need to become aware of your own emotions and how they may be coming out in the things you say and do with a guy.
For example:
If you’re texting him too often seeking to know if he’s stil interested in you.
If you’ve not got much going on in your life outside of him he can feel as if you’re too reliant on him for your happiness.
If you’re keen to spend a lot of time together, he’s likely to feel pressured and may fear losing his freedom.
Now don’t misunderstand me here: Being able to rely on someone when you’ve had a tough day is totally acceptable and is all part of a healthy relationship…
Putting too much importance on how this man will change your life will only lead to disaster and have him pulling away.
He’ll start to feel pressured and….
That sense of certainty and security you’re so longing to have in a relationship will never materialise.
2. GETTING TOO “COMFORTABLE” TOO QUICKLY
Yep, we all know being single can feel pretty crap at times.
Why can’t we just meet a guy, fall in love and be in a great relationship?
As women, we often want to skip past the initial dating phase.
We want to cut to the chase and know if he is ‘the one.’
After all, we don’t want to waste our time if he’s not right… right?
But by doing this we push a guy too quickly. Men often take a lot longer than women to know if a relationship is right for them and in our need for security and to be loved we actually push him away and acjieve the exact opposite to what we really want – crazy but true!
So don’t skip this phase, just relax and enjoy it… after all you’ll never get those great early days again!
3. TRYING TO CHANGE HIM
OK, so you’ve met this guy but then you find out that there are just some things you’d really rather were different about him.
Perhaps you’d rather he didn’t watch or play quite as much football?
Maybe he’s got a bad wardrobe?
Or maybe you wished he didn’t have an ex wife and kids?
Well one thing is for sure here, if you start any relationship off wanting him to be different then it’s just not going to work.
You’ll end up frustrated and nagging him to change…
Or worse still TELLING HIM what he should do!
It’s up to him to choose to change if he wants to and for you to accept him as he is or decide whether he really is the right man for you and if you should continue the relationship with him.
Final Thoughts…
Like I say, those first few months of a relationship can be tough. Try and get to know each other as best you can, but don’t rush things and spell out all of your future plans to him expecting him to be the one in them. Go for your plans and the future you want yourself and if this guy is smart, he’ll realize that you’re one worth keeping hold of!
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